Keeping things exciting in a long marriage takes a little intention — and a little playfulness. We’ve gathered our favorite spicy date ideas, bedroom games, and sexy surprises for married couples into one place, many with free printables you can download tonight. Everything here is meant for two committed partners looking to reconnect, laugh, and turn up the heat. Jump to what you’re in the mood for:
Bedroom Games & Printables
Fantasy Menu
Fantasize no longer — with this Fantasy Menu, the bedroom becomes whatever you want it to be. Role play takes things from drab to fab in minutes, transforming the room into a school room, boot camp, or even the oval office.
Print the menu set (designed by Kensie Kate): the “menu” page on the bottom, the “specials” half-sheet in the middle, and the “fantasy menu” page on top. Present it to your spouse and let them choose what’s on the menu — positions, foreplay, level of spiciness, and 10 sassy role-play options. Gather a few items based on their picks, package them in a small box with the take-out tag, and pull surprises out as the evening unfolds. Don’t forget the receipt — it’s redeemable for another fantasy-filled evening!
⬇ Download: Fantasy Menu Printables
Spicy Book of Love
A DIY printable coupon book — but not just any coupon book. This is one sexy coupon book full of sweet and sassy coupons your spouse will be thrilled to cash in. Designed by Messes to Memories, it’s easy to print, cut, and assemble.
Once you’ve printed and cut the coupons, dress up the book with a bit of washi tape, and pair it with a bag of Kisses for a well-rounded gift. There are 10 sexy coupons inside — including favorites like the Weekend Getaway.
⬇ Download: Spicy Book of Love
Spouse I.O.U’s
A new twist on the love note: his-and-her sets of I.O.U’s that double as an invitation to meet up later. Fill out a “check” of your choice, leave it for your spouse to find, and build anticipation for the evening ahead.
Designed by Nina Bean Designs, you each get your own set. Print the printables, bind each set with a little baker’s twine (print the last page twice so each set has a blank “check”), and carry your set so you’re ready to rip one out when the mood strikes.
⬇ Download: Spouse I.O.U Printables
Wanna Piece of Me?
A playful foreplay idea: give your spouse a beautiful picture of yourself one puzzle piece at a time throughout the day, building anticipation right up to bedroom romance.
Take an attractive photo of yourself (suggestive or innocently flirtatious — let your expression say it all), print it along with the flirty flyer, and glue the photo to cereal-box cardboard. Draw a puzzle pattern on the back, write a short message, and cut out the pieces. Hide them in unexpected places — pants pockets, by the speedometer, next to his toothbrush — and enjoy watching him stumble across them all day. Once he’s assembled the puzzle and read your message, the “even more fun” part begins. No further directions required.
⬇ Download: Wanna Piece of Me Printable
The Penny Jar
A simple tradition for newlyweds or any married couple: every time you have a little fun in the bedroom, drop a penny in your jar. Start it with the new year and aim to top the number next year.
Variations abound: use quarters or dollars to put toward a movie or a date, or start it as newlyweds and keep it going forever. It even doubles as a great code name — “I want to put a penny in our jar. Should we put the kids to bed?” To make the jar, print the saying, glue it onto paper, add ribbon and a flower, cut a fabric topper with a slot for the penny, and twist the lid on.
Sexy Surprises & Gifts
April Showers Gift Basket
Conserve water, shower together! This gift basket is full of his bathroom favorites — with a whole new meaning — for clean (and dirty) fun all spring long.
Gather five scents of an Old Spice product — Champion, After Hours, Danger Zone, Swagger, and Playmaker — plus extras like a towel or loofah. Print the tags (by Nina Bean Designs), match each number to its message, attach to the products in numerical order, add the printable poem, and build your basket.
⬇ Download: April Showers Printables
Panty Wreath
Welcome your man home with a wreath meant for his eyes only. Warning: he may break the bedroom door trying to get inside.
You’ll need your sexy lingerie, a styrofoam wreath (about 10 inches), curling ribbon, scissors, and the printable (by Whimsicle Design). Wrap or bunch each pair of underwear around the wreath, secure with ribbon, curl the ends, and continue until the wreath is covered. Add the printable to the bottom and hang it on your bedroom door for a revealing welcome.
⬇ Download: Panty Wreath Printable
Lingerie… for HIM
There’s plenty of talk about dressing up for your husband — but what about a little something new for HIM to wear in the bedroom? Don’t underestimate the delight of laughing together; it’s all about enjoying each other.
A few playful options: Mr. Funny Pants — go overboard with themed “drawers” left out for him to find; Go Twinner Style — pick a style you already own and find him something that coordinates, hidden in the sheets; or Mr. Tough Guy — whatever makes your guy feel macho (a tool belt, perhaps). The goal is to rekindle the desire for bedroom romance and make each other feel loved.
Bedazzling Surprise
If your hubby likes surprises — or even if he doesn’t — he’s going to like this one. Use little self-adhesive girly gems to bedazzle a normally-covered area for a surprise he won’t forget.
A few design ideas to get you thinking: a heart with an arrow, his initials worked into a design, your favorite flower, “XOXO,” or the shape of lips. Position the gems one by one, or build your design on contact paper (sticky side up) and press them on all at once. The gems are just a couple of bucks at an inexpensive jewelry shop; if they need extra hold, a little eyelash adhesive does the trick.
Sexy and Funny Cards
Trouble making the first move, even with the spouse you’ve loved forever? These sexy and funny cards hint at a night you’ll both enjoy — perfect for a private moment, not for slipping into a public lunch bag.
Choose one of five designs (by Messes to Memories) or print them all. One suggests you forgot the gift — but the gift is YOU. Another looks sweet at first glance until your spouse takes a closer look. Just print the one-page design, cut, and fold. For best results, grab a paper cutter and nice cardstock.
⬇ Download: Sexy and Funny Cards
The Little Black Dress
Never underestimate the power of the little black dress. Reserve a very form-fitting one especially for your spouse, then surprise them with the full treatment.
One reader, after weeks apart from her husband, cleaned the house, made his favorite dinner, got dressed to perfection, slipped on the dress and heels, and waited on the couch for him to walk in. The look on his face made every minute of effort worth it — and he’s requested the little black dress on many occasions since. A simple, powerful way to spark the fire.
Flirty Tips & Quick Ideas
Flirty Printables for the Bedroom
Adorable frameable quotes to hang in your bedroom as a flirty, fun reminder to spark some romance. Reader Alyssa paired common phrases — “do more of what makes you happy” and “you make me happy” — into a sassy, suggestive bit of DIY art.
These 8×10 printables come in four color schemes — download your favorite: yellow, blue, pink, or light blue. They double beautifully as little love notes, too.
Eat Your Heart Out
Bring candy into the bedroom and have your man eating out of the palm of your hand. Print the cute printable, grab some bright lingerie and festive candy jewelry, and text a teasing photo with the line “Tonight, get ready to…”
His mind will be wandering all afternoon. Then, instead of a typical dinner, skip straight to dessert — a pretty plate of treats for an evening of fun, sweet in more ways than one.
⬇ Download: Eat Your Heart Out Printable
Sealed with a Kiss
Add a wild touch to a tender kiss. Apply a temporary lip tattoo to your lips, snap a photo, and tuck it into the printable card and envelope — slipped into his bag, lunch, or car seat for a surprise.
You’ll need a couple of lip tattoos (buy a few as spares), the printables (by Whimsicle Design), and a camera phone. For a last-minute version, just hold the little sign, snap the photo, and text him the sassy image. Later, see how good he is at taming those wild lips of yours.
⬇ Download: Sealed with a Kiss Printable
Kiss Me, Baby
Take your kissing from ho-hum to yum-yum with one simple, surprising tip: a tongue scraper. The decaying bacteria on the very back of the tongue causes the vast majority of bad breath — and nobody wants to kiss through that.
They’re cheap (a couple of bucks at Target, often in a two-pack), take a second to use, and make a noticeable difference. Pick one up for yourself and surprise your spouse with one of their own, and enjoy fresher, more inviting kisses.
Zumba Love
Bring a little nightlife back into your home. If you love a good Zumba class — with its fun songs and seductive moves — download a few of those songs and show your sweetie the routines at home.
One reader has used this idea for her husband several times — he loves seeing the dances and she loves performing them. A fun, quick, easy night in: just find a song, use a routine you already know, and you’ve got a date planned.
Keep the Spark Alive
A passionate marriage is worth being intentional about. Bookmark this page and come back whenever you want to surprise your spouse or shake up the routine. For more, browse our date night ideas and special occasion collections.
