Couples Marriage Resolutions

A new year means a fresh start — so this year, why not set some resolutions together? Most of us make goals for our health, our careers, and our habits, but the most important relationship in our lives often gets left off the list. Marriage resolutions are simply shared goals the two of you pick to grow closer over the coming year, and they’re one of the easiest, most meaningful date nights you can have. Below you’ll find how to set them, a big list of resolution ideas to choose from, and our free printables to make it official.

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How to Set Marriage Resolutions Together

Setting goals as a couple takes about one cozy evening. Here’s the simple framework:

1. Choose three goals together. Sit down and pick three resolutions you both believe would strengthen your marriage. Start from the idea list below, or write your own.
2. Set a time frame for each. Some goals are daily, others happen once or twice a year. Giving each one a clear rhythm makes it far more likely to stick.
3. Create accountability. Decide who’s responsible for making each goal happen — one of you can own a goal while you both participate. Marriage is a team sport.
4. Put them on display. Add the year, then place your finished resolutions somewhere you’ll both see them often — frame them, pin them to a board, or tuck them on the bathroom mirror.

Marriage Resolution Ideas to Choose From

Not sure where to start? Here are our favorite resolution ideas, grouped by what they strengthen. Pick the three that speak to your marriage this year:

Connection & Quality Time

• Have a weekly date night — and protect it like an appointment
• Put phones away during dinner and really talk
• Go to bed at the same time at least a few nights a week
• Take a short daily walk together to decompress

Communication

• Hold a weekly “check-in” to share how you’re each really doing
• Tell each other one specific thing you’re grateful for every day
• Learn each other’s love language — and speak it on purpose
• Practice active listening during disagreements instead of planning your rebuttal

Romance & Intimacy

• Share a real kiss (at least six seconds!) every day
• Flirt with each other like you did when you were dating
• Plan one overnight getaway, just the two of you
• Keep a couple’s bucket list and check one item off each month

Growth & Fun

• Read a marriage book together and talk about it
• Try one brand-new activity as a couple each month
• Set a shared financial goal and review it monthly
• Do one small act of service for each other daily

Grab the Free Marriage Resolutions Printables

To make it easy and official, we’ve got free printables: resolution cards (with blanks to write your own), time-frame cards, and accountability cards. The gorgeous designs are the work of our friend Kayley at Ollie & Lulu — she has plenty of other brilliant ideas, too, so go show her some love. Just scroll down to download, fill them in together, and frame them for the year ahead.

Keep the Momentum All Year

Resolutions are easiest to keep when you have a little inspiration on tap. Keep the spark going with our 365 Ways to Rekindle the Spark kit (a full year of romance ideas with monthly love calendars), and browse our best marriage tips, 10 Habits of a Happy Marriage, and a set of conversation starters for your weekly check-ins. Here’s to your best year of marriage yet!

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